When children feel understood and sympathy, their loneliness and hurt diminish and their love for their parent is deepened. Parents should genuinely acknowledge a child’s plight and let him/her voice their disappointment, so that he/she will gathers the strength to face the reality.
Since all “misbehaviour” is driven by upset feelings or unmet needs, parents have to help their child to resolve the tangled up feelings that are triggering his/her aggression.
Here are three tools to help dissolve jealousy.
1. Strengthen your connection
Connect with each child every morning and then again every hour you’re with them throughout the day, by looking for opportunities for a warm smile, touch or comment. Whatever your child says or does, try to see the situation from him/her point of view.
2. Make your child laughing
Laughter helps humans let go of anxiety and transforms the body chemistry to reduce stress hormones and increase bonding hormones. Play games that get young children laughing because this is the best connection and bonding you will have with your children. It will be easier to cooperation with them later.
3. Acknowledge your child’s mixed emotions.
Every child is bound to have some complicated feelings about their siblings. You have to let him/her to talk about it, so that he/she won’t have to act it out. Furthermore, emotions don’t stay stuffed; they pop out again and again. To transform negative behaviour, give your child some help with him/her negative emotions.
Children get along best with their siblings when parents make it clear that all feelings are normal and acceptable, even while not all actions are permitted and civility is expected. But as you connect with him/her, help him/her laugh, acknowledge him/her feelings, their hurt and loneliness will begin to heal. Your love and patience will build a relationship between siblings a chance to blossom.